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Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Do you ever start something and then never finish it? Or maybe you finish it several weeks, months, even years later.
When we think something is adequate enough or we're content in our lives, we tend to get a little too comfortable and the bad habits start in again. Sometimes it’s just the opposite: we are so uncomfortable with the outcome that we just give up and forget fixing it all together.
Being content can be good and adequate is okay, but we are capable of so much more than we think.
"Your biggest challenge isn't someone else. It's the voice inside you that yells 'can't’, but you don't listen . You just push harder. And then you hear the voice whisper 'can’. And then you discover that the person you thought you were is no match for the person you really are".
I first read this quote by a Facebook friend from my college days. At the time I knew him he was smoking cigarettes, drinking, and getting very little sleep. Today, he is practicing golf and going above and beyond what he needs to do to stay in great physical and mental health. He's given up smoking, drinks only at social occasions, and knows when to call it quits. He stopped being content with his lifestyle and started living it to the fullest.
People tend to get so consumed in their lives that they miss the possibility of achieving something better and obtaining the benefits that come with pushing oneself to the next level. There are things that distract us from setting our sights higher like family, friends, work and temptations. Family, friends, and work can be temptations as well as distractions if they aren't aware or supportive of your goals. Sometimes, even when family and friends are aware, you still have to overcome challenges. Support makes things easier, but it is not everything. Since you are the only one who can actually make the change you must always keep your vision in mind. Friends and family can keep you accountable, but not when you’re by yourself and no one is watching. It’s important to keep your eyes on your goals and the benefits that come from achieving them.
It’s also important to use positive self-talk, not just when trying to accomplish a goal, but for life. Positive self-talk needs to be practiced by even by the most positive people. I had a client once that was in remission who told me that it's okay to have a bad day, but not okay to have a bad week. Using positive self-talk is helpful in these types of situations when you’re facing challenges. Positive self-talk is talking to yourself…using positive reinforcement and compliments. So, instead of saying you can't, tell yourself you can!
No goal is impossible. If your goal is so big that it overwhelms you, then you need to modify the big goal into smaller goals by asking yourself what smaller steps you can take to reach it.
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