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Sunday, December 11, 2011
I have not personally experienced a long distance relationship, but I have seen the drama, tears, and late night Skype sessions. As an outsider, I believe I hold an important perspective, so listen up, and stop texting your boyfriend.
Okay, so I may be a little biased on the subject, but I remember watching this poor girl who lived on my floor stay up for hours as she whispered sweet nothings into her webcam. The rest of us were bonding over MTV’s Jersey Shore in our residence hall’s lounge, eating take-out, and doing all those quintessential first-year college activities. However, this poor girl was too busy moping.
I completely understand that people can really connect in high school and carry relationships into college. I have seen it done successfully in the past, and when two people are just right for each other, it’s beautiful.
But here’s the thing—we can’t forget about ourselves. A long distance relationship takes an excessive amount of work on top of your 13 papers, extra curriculars, and leisure schedule.
A relationship can be extremely rewarding and euphoric, but we are so lucky to be here. College is a privilege, and you are unwise if you do not sink your teeth into everything. Our main objectives are to learn, have fun, figure out who the heck we are, and try new things. It is such a gift, and it’s just a damn shame if you miss out on all of this to text your boyfriend or girlfriend 24/7.
So be good to yourself. If your relationship is completely distracting you from the entire experience that is college, it may be time to call it quits. However, in the rare case that you are able to carefully balance your significant other, Intro to Strategic Communications, and dance practice, that’s great too. Remember to invite me to your wedding!