With fall semester finished, many students return home for winter break, and there may be concerns about how they will adjust to routines at home. For many, winter break is an opportunity to catch up on sleep and reconnect with old friends they haven’t seen in months.
They will also begin to receive their first semester grades and experience joy, disappointment, or relief. This could also bring about relationship separation anxiety from a significant other.
Some students, upon talking to friends at home, get "transfer fever." Sometimes, the grass looks greener at another college. Sometimes, one friend saying they are going to transfer ignites an idea for others in the friend group. Bluntly, this is a generation that fears failure and often confuses failure with disappointment. (This is not about shaming, this is about educating what we know from student development theory - yes we study that!). This fear of failure can make a student commitment-averse or decision-averse. When a friend shares the rosy, social-media ready description of college-life for them, it can cause your student to question whether they made the right choice. As a family member or supporter, it is important to know that the idea of transferring may pop up - particularly during breaks. And, it is important for you to coach your student to remember that they already made a great decision in their choice of college!