The staff of the Center for LGBT Education, Outreach and
Services knows that being back at home can be wonderful, but
sometimes stressful. The list of resources below can provide
information, support and diversion for you. The LGBT Resource Room
will re-open at the start of the spring semester. We wish you a
safe and happy winter break!
Need to prepare?
These sites have information about family relationships and tips for interacting with family and friends:
HRC guide for coming out to your family and friends
Want to Know Common Questions Parents Ask?
Tips for a Happy Holiday for LGBTQ People and Their Friends!
Need some simple things to relieve holiday stress? Need a distraction? Bored? When Facebook and Twitter lose their charm on about day 3 of break, try these fun sites:
Here's some helpful information for LGBT travelers, to consider if your plans will take you abroad during the break or for international study next semester.
Traveling can be stressful for the holidays, but can be even moreso for folks whose gender identity or presentation may conflict with gender markers on their legal documents. Before you travel, know your rights and what to expect as a passenger when passing through airport security. This government page provides information about some of the screening procedures transgender air passengers may encounter, as well as information about booking a flight and packing luggage while transgender. In the event that you do experience discrimination, the above link provided by the National Center for Transgender Equality also provides a number of contacts for filing a complaint.
If you are traveling and think you may be subject to additional searches due to the presence of medical prosthetics (or any other reasons, including the presence of a service animal, a disability or medical condition, or medication), you can feel free to fill out and present a 'TSA Notification Card,' presenting the TSA officer with additional information and documentation. For more information about traveling through TSA where use of this card may be applicable, please check out the TSA 'Special Procedures' sub-page. At any time during the screening process you may request to speak with a supervisor and/or have a private screening. If you are traveling internationally, you may want to specifically research that location's screening and security procedures before flying.
While You're There...
You might be spending some time this break in a place that all of your legal identity documents hang out. If you're thinking of changing any of your identity documents to a correct or more-correct gender marker or name, consider taking some time to flip through PPSFL Out For Health's comprehensive booklet on how to update your documents and see what you need to begin the process! This booklet is specific to changing your documents in Tompkins County, but the National Center for Transgender Equality maintains an awesome guide on how to do it everywhere else, too!
Need someone to talk to? Need some help? Need some support?
Access information about emergency resources
This is a national suicide prevention helpline that operates 24 hours, 7 days a week. The hotline is aimed at helping LGBT and questioning youth. A live chat feature is also available.
National Hotline: (888)843-4564
This line provides confidential peer-counseling, information and local resources. The line operates Monday through Friday from 4pm to midnight and Saturday from noon to 5pm, Eastern Time. You can also email them at glnh@GLBTNationalHelpCenter.org
The GLBT National
Youth Talkline: (800) 246-7743 (youth serving youth
through age 25)
This line provides confidential peer-counseling, information and local resources specifically to youth up to age 25. The line operates Monday through Fridayfrom 8pm to midnight Eastern Time. You can also email them at: youth@GLBTNationalHelpCenter.org
TransLifeline Transgender Crisis: (877) 565-8860
This line provides confidential peer-counseling, information, and resources specifically to transgender/genderqueer/agender/other non-cisgendered persons. The line operates seven days a week, and the times are included on the provided website: http://www.translifeline.org
Crisis Text Line Serves anyone, in any type of crisis, providing access to free, 24/7 support and information via text. Simple text 741-741 from anywhere in the USA, anytime, about any type of crisis. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds quickly, helping you "move from a hot moment to a cool moment." Please note that this Crisis Text Line is not specific to LGBTQIA people.
Non-Crisis Methods of Comfort
Thanksgiving Day 2017 through New Year's Day 2018, Your
Yes, they're at it again - Your Holiday Mom has letters from "Holiday Moms" and other adult support figures that write general letters to LGBTQ+ people in need of love, care, and affection during the holidays. Some of the Holiday Moms also read their letters out loud to create audio files so you can listen to them read their letter to you. If you struggle with your family over the holiday season and want feelings of universal support and parenthood, Your Holiday Mom is a great resource to make you feel less alone. Read and listen to letters from holiday moms here: http://www.yourholidaymom.com. Or subscribe via their website and a message will pop into your inbox each day during the holiday season.
Don't Be Lonely: The December Project Returns!
Trans people–and the people who love them–face unique challenges during the holidays. Too often we can find ourselves separated from families, from spouses and children and parents. It’s a time of year that, as Dickens well noted, can be the most haunted of all, a time when we travel in time and feel all too keenly the distance between ourselves and others, when what we most desire is warmth, and community, and love.
Helen Boyd and Dylan Scholinski are making themselves available to any trans person this holiday season who needs someone to talk to, even if it's just to say "Merry Christmas," or to listen. Here's how it works: email Helen (email@example.com) or Dylan (firstname.lastname@example.org) with a little bit about yourself and they will write you back and arrange a time to call and talk. More info here: http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2017/12/05/the-return-of-the-december-project/
Need someone closer than that?
Find support in your community or your winter break destination with this online directory of local LGBT community centers. Many have support groups, social happenings, mental and physical health services onsite or by referral, volunteer opportunities, and more.