Thanksgiving Break Resources

The staff of the Center for LGBT Education, Outreach and Services know that this break can be wonderful, but sometimes stressful. Some students may believe this particular break is a good time to come out to family and friends. Coming out is a highly individual, personal process. Only you can know when and whether it's the right time for you. The list of resources below can provide information, support and diversion for you. This section of the LGBT Center website  includes specific resources for you, your family, and friends, about coming out - whether you decide to do so this week, or at any other time of the year that's right for you.

The LGBT Resource Room will be closed Thursday November 28 and Friday November 29 due to the College holiday. We wish you a safe and happy break!

Need to prepare?

These sites have information about family relationships and tips for interacting with family and friends:

HRC guide for coming out to your family and friends

Want to Know Common Questions Parents Ask?

Tips for a Happy Holiday for LGBTQ People and Their Friends!

How to Ally for the Holidays - tips for those friends or family members of LGBTQ people!

Need some simple things to relieve holiday stress? Need a distraction? Bored?  When social media loses its charm on about day 3 of break, try these fun sites:


Here's some helpful information for LGBT travelers, to consider if your plans will take you abroad during the break or for international study next semester.

Traveling can be stressful for the holidays, but can be even more so for folks whose gender identity or presentation may conflict with gender markers on their legal documents. Before you travel, know your rights and what to expect as a passenger when passing through airport security. This government page provides information about some of the screening procedures transgender air passengers may encounter, as well as information about booking a flight and packing luggage while transgender. In the event that you do experience discrimination, the above link provided by the National Center for Transgender Equality also provides a number of contacts for filing a complaint.

If you are traveling and think you may be subject to additional searches due to the presence of medical prosthetics (or any other reasons, including the presence of a service animal, a disability or medical condition, or medication), you can feel free to fill out and present a 'TSA Notification Card,' presenting the TSA officer with additional information and documentation.  For more information about traveling through TSA where use of this card may be applicable, please check out the TSA 'Special Procedures' sub-page. At any time during the screening process you may request to speak with a supervisor and/or have a private screening. If you are traveling internationally, you may want to specifically research that location's screening and security procedures before flying.

While You're There...

You might be spending some time this break in a place that all of your legal identity documents hang out. If you're thinking of changing any of your identity documents to a correct or more-correct gender marker or name, consider taking some time to flip through PPSFL Out For Health's comprehensive booklet on how to update your documents and see what you need to begin the process! This booklet is specific to changing your documents in Tompkins County, but the National Center for Transgender Equality maintains an awesome guide on how to do it everywhere else, too!

Need someone to talk to? Need some help? Need some support?
Access information about emergency resources

Free Hotlines

The Trevor Project(866)488-7386
This is a national suicide prevention helpline that operates 24 hours, 7 days a week. The hotline is aimed at helping LGBT and questioning youth.  A live chat feature is also available.

The GLBT National Hotline(888)843-4564
This line provides confidential peer-counseling, information and local resources. The line operates Monday through Friday from 4pm to midnight and Saturday from noon to 5pm, Eastern Time. You can also email them at glnh@GLBTNationalHelpCenter.org

LGBT National Youth Hotline(800) 246-7743 (youth serving youth through age 25)
This line provides confidential peer-counseling, information and local resources specifically to youth up to age 25. The line operates Monday through Fridayfrom 8pm to midnight Eastern Time. You can also email them at: youth@GLBTNationalHelpCenter.org

The TransLifeline Transgender Crisis:  (877) 565-8860 
This line provides confidential peer-counseling, information, and resources specifically to transgender/genderqueer/agender/other non-cisgendered persons.  The line operates seven days a week, and the times are included on the provided website:  http://www.translifeline.org

Crisis Text Line: 741-741 
Crisis Text Line Serves anyone, in any type of crisis, providing access to free, 24/7 support and information via text. Simple text 741-741 from anywhere in the USA, anytime, about any type of crisis. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds quickly, helping you "move from a hot moment to a cool moment." Please note that this Crisis Text Line is not specific to LGBTQIA people.

Non-Crisis Methods of Comfort

Need someone closer than that?
Find support in your community or Thanksgiving break destination with this online directory of local LGBT community centers. Many have support groups, social happenings, mental and physical health services onsite or by referral, volunteer opportunities, and more.